(AARP has joined this revolution, partnering with the online dating service HowAboutWe to launch AARP Dating in December ) But the online-dating boom has also fueled an invisible epidemic. According to the Federal Trade Online dating scams happen all over the world, but certain demographics tend to be more susceptible. Romance scams have a 45% susceptibility risk to their targets. (BBB Scam · Top 5 Romance Scam Stories #1: The Tinder Swindler. He used his Private Jet to Romance Scam? Celine wasn’t one to be easily fooled. Simon looked #2: John Meehan. · DISABLED MAN LOST $k IN ONLINE ROMANCE SCAM. Walter Zutell. He and Joy have never met but share something in common. They both lost around $k to a Real scam victims have shared their experiences to help warn others about scams. In these stories we ask you to find the signs that it was a scam, and consider how similar scams ... read more
I sit in wonder, where will this lead me, am I going to carry such a burden for too much longer? Will he concede and reprieve on the offer? It was two years ago I was in my late 30s with good paying job and a vast network of social life, I just joined the online dating platform for the first time. That means the scammer s also paid the same to stay on that platform. Soon after I got a message from a male profile with no photos. Indeed it was the first message.
He soon suggested to chat on WhatsApp Now I know this is an early sign of a scam and I agreed. But I had no idea about Romance Scam and this is my first experience for online dating so I put my slight doubts aside and went on. Now I know, you must ALWAYS trust your gut feeling about someone. For a week we chatted everyday but only chit chat and nothing romantic, then a week later he said he is going to Europe for a business trip as his client there was with a trouble There you go!
I was also going to be away to other country for holidays in two weeks. From Europe he sent me a video. I also found he had a North American accent. Which goes along with his background he provided He sent me more photos and messages then bang, sent me this long email and for the first time with passion about his idea of relationship. Basically I was sold for that and wrote him back honestly with most open attitude. As you can imagine the scam took place right after this.
I guess all I had was just a hope someday I will meet him soon. Long story short, I made a quick decision and wired him money. I think I was scammed because I am a business woman and I think I wanted to appear I understand his business needs.
My ego played a role in here. I could not believe it and I even told him that my friend was scammed and I am doubting if he was the one. My friend was scammed in the different way it was a marriage scam not online. At the time I thought he could be a scammer but I also thought I would confront him if he comes back from Europe. I asked him to call me and he agreed.
We set a phone call, him in Europe and me in Asia. It was 3am and first I was alarmed because the line was jammed with noise and that his voice tone was completely different from the video and most notably, he sounded like an Indian not North American. His English was real bad, this confused me because his English was bit wobbly on texts but perfect on Emails.
Now I know the emails are scripted by an native English speaker He begged for money and I was annoyed by his arrogance and forceful attitude. I was crying.
So in the end with all these red flags and alarm beeping in my head I gave in and decided to send him money next morning. I was extremely upset by the fact it is all about him since the beginning and I exhausted by him.
If you ask me now all I can say is I was under a weird spell. And it was the first experience ever to feel that way for me. On my holiday, we were chatting on WhatsApp. His situation grew gloomier day by day and he sounded depressed day by day. None of this made sense and I started thinking he is bit of an idiot.
Red flags all the way but I pushed it aside by thinking maybe he sounds so by stressful situation and he would be normal after this. And if he was a scammer then I would confront him when we finally meet.
Why did I think a scammer would meet me? I guess that made me think at least I would see him later no matter how situation gets worse and that I would not get scammed like my friend did. I gasped for the air for realising the extent of stupidity of myself. Went to the police station they told me to send the case in by email so I did. I waited for police to contact me. I did extensive study online about it So I blocked him and that was the end of the contact. Back then I was still thinking authorities can catch the scammers.
A month later police called me in for filing my case officially. They even went to the address he gave me to find no one under his profile lives there.
And that his email IP corresponds to Indonesia and Nigeria. I posted all his information online and few months later a woman from where I live contacted me telling me she too was approached by the guy with same phone number of different name and she told me she called the number and few different Chinese speaking guys picked up the phone and each of them told her the person she is asking for a white guy is not there.
Few other women contacted me the same. I can tell from my experiences that you are extremely vulnerable for things you have never heard or encountered in your life. I knew about conventional scams like it happened to my friend a marriage scam but NEVER have I imagined of THIS, not perpetrated by a scam-man but by a global criminal syndicate which possibly has connections with other bigger crimes or worse terrorism and their operation is impossible for current authority to bring down.
Often the media portraits the Romance Scam victims are retired lonely women. I, in my late 30s with wide network of friends and social life, had never thought I would be the one. Scammers rarely target young people just because young people usually have no money not because old people are prone to the scams. I hate how media gets this wrong. Truth is not the victim-centric as they want to scandalously portrait of us, the victims, but it is all about MONEY for the scammers and nothing else.
Scammers target men, women, gays, young and old regardless of their profession or educational level as long as the one has MONEY. His name was Michael Stanton so he told me.
I fell in love with this man and believed everything he told me even though my family and friends all told me that it was a scam. I still have a house and a car and my pension. It finished in January and I had to change my bank account, my credit card my phone numbers, one of my sons rang him in Turkey and told him that I had committed suicide and thought that would be the end. I ruined my life really went to solicitor banks, police, everywhere but no help here in Australia.
My family are now very supportive to me and have helped me but I will never forgive myself as that was their inheritance. Something strange happened a few months ago and got a man through Facebook requesting to be my friend with a photo. I was really surprised as he looked like the same person. I never reply to these but I answered this and said that he looked liked a man that scammed me.
I sent him the photo and he sent a larger one of him and with the words he said that it was a good job he had shaved off his moe and said it was a terrible thing for anyone to do. In November I was approached by a man who was a random match on Words with Friends. The initial exchanges were polite, sweet and charming, and I was slowly drawn in to keep chatting with him. We shared details about our lives with each other and found we had a lot in common.
I began to look forward to his messages more than I should have. He told me he was a marine engineer doing contract work on an offshore rig in Norway. He said he had lost his wife to cancer 7 years ago and had a 15 year old daughter in the states with a nanny. He had been walking around with a hole in his heart, never expecting to find love again.
His contract would be up soon and he planned to retire so he could travel. Asked me if I would be his traveling companion and said that he wanted to treat me like a queen. We began to chat multiple times a day on Google Hangouts, which I downloaded at his request.
There were daily phone calls as well, with him professing his love and his gratitude for coming into his life. All of this lasted over 2 months and my heart had been melting all the while, even against my better judgement. He knew all the right things to say and I felt wanted, needed and loved.
Was this finally my soulmate? If I backed off from this chance at true love, would I always regret it? We made plans to meet once he got back to the States next month. We were just continuing the love affair we had started then. The romance and the mystery clouded my more rational thoughts and I allowed myself to be swept away by his charming and loving words.
He tried a few more times to pull me back in, telling me I was breaking his heart and why was I doing this, my love? Have you forgotten so soon all the sweet moments we shared? I am so grateful for this forum, and my heart goes out to all of you who have been played, like me, by these smooth and charming love scammers. The man I thought I was talking to said his name was Andre, he found me on Instagram. But not Andre, he kept pursuing me.
And eventually, I weakened. He told me how beautiful I was, and that he wanted to meet me someday. We would chat everyday, I even set my notifications sound from the app we used to a certain ringtone so I knew when it was him. Everything was going fine our chats were innocent and romantic and yes I fell for him. But I just let it slide, because I really wanted to believe that this big beautiful man wanted me.
Andre told me he was a soldier, he had relocated from Germany to Texas. He said he was on a peace keeping mission In Kabul Afghanistan. He would tell me he was in the command room or the communications room all alone, and so he could talk to me. Then he told me their general was coming and they were having a rewards ceremony for which he got a substantial reward. And I congratulated him.
I was pleased that him and his kids would be well taken care of because of it. Everything was going well and as I said earlier our relationship was very romantic until one day out of the blue it turned sexual, he started to ask me to send pics of myself and promised to keep them for his own private use.
At first I sent ones of myself in my PJs, done up in high heels make up and mini dresses or lingerie but I made sure I was covered up.
But he wanted nude ones, he sent me a pic of his…. At least I thought it was his cause the dude was wearing army pants and boots? When I was ready.
As you can guess I sent them my face and my breasts? I figured it because he was In the military and it was for security reasons. Suddenly one-day he called me sobbing and crying telling me that his Nanny Judith called to tell him that his son Tristan had been rushed to hospital, I spent all day from calls to chats consoling him until he found out what was wrong with Tristan.
The diagnosis was cancer. I told him I had emailed an actual doctor from the USA to see what is supposed to happen In a case such as his, as he is a single father. I had a feeling that there had to be a way he could go home early in a case such as this, I even looked up and downloaded military criteria on early leave reasons and how you could get it. And when I tried to tell him about all of this it just fell on deaf ears.
I was to tell them I was his fiance. When he did reply I was not expecting the reaction I got. I did tell them why they might receive these pics and to my amazement and surprise they all supported me and gave me love. No one would let me feel ashamed people even told me that it happened to them even my own sister. Yes he tried to add a link to the archives album but it as too late I had beat him to it and I told him and yet he continued the blackmail, but I told him I forgave him and I do, I wished him the best because even wankers deserve good things to happen to them which angered him.
The blackmail suddenly stopped when I told him if I had the money and I could be bothered I would hunt him down. I really believe that we need to share our stories of SCAMMERS in order to warn other people.
My son and his sweetheart both have accounts and play the market, buying stock and selling, you know. I was never on a web based dating site, never in my life. I have met a few men. And was asking me to try this app. Ok then I said. It started there. With her help, I did filter and met in person, men. After 2 weeks approx, this man came along. He was different, very romantic. But was in Manitoba lie as an engineer to bid on a contract here, where I live.
Was supposed to then go finish up a contract in Cyprus but, in between, he will stop here to meet me. Last minute… he became sick, food poisoning. The area code were ok, etc. As I planned earlier in that year, I had to go to France in August to visit my best friend for her birthday. Big surprise party organized by her lovely husband. Everyday he was texting or emailing to me. Once he asked for the phone number where I was in France.
My friends agreed. He called me. Then he asked for the address… my friends said oh, why not? Couple of days later I received this beautiful bouquet of flowers, with a very nice vase. I was wow! Then, he started to call me boo, love, queen, all the bs. He never woke me up in the night, I could sleep but he was there, texting or calling, multiple times every day. I was in heaven.
Plans to get together, he was from California but wife died in his arms in a car accident caused by a drunk driver, 3 years ago, teenager son living in Scotland with Granny. She was sending me emails, very nice and sensitive emails. Poor son was working so hard since wife died. Never had another girlfriend, since he lost his soul-mate. When I called in Scotland, like 3 times, it was the answering machine… So my scammer told me that her mother was in dialysis 4 times a week and needed a kidney.
She was old and under much stress by the electronics… she could not talk on the phone. But, she was always responding to my emails, in TALL police of characters.
He owned a business, with a site, and his pictures and the employees. One day he called me crying he was crying a lot desperate: he could not get out of Cyprus because he had to pay taxes on is million-ish dollar contract. And the government was linked to the airport, so there was no way to get out.
He also had to pay his lawyer with a web site , etc. Since he is not done paying taxes to Cyprus, he could not be paid by his client.
He had no friends, Mum was poor and sick, and could not ask his employees. It was just a loan. I began to send him money through MoneyGram, and then I wired money.
I was sorry he could not skype… his camera was broken. Plus, I am under a depression with pills. No one knows about the money aspect. Well, only the Security dept of my bank, who blocked me once. At this time, I was out of the nightmare of breast cancer surgery and so on , and seeing my best friend in France was such a boost for me, I was high. But I really believed that it was possible that I meet a man my age, educated, very kind and capable of commitment in love.
I am educated, but was vulnerable, lonely, naive and idiot…. She met the first scammer on OurTime. Then he sells her name and contact info on the dark web. My mom supposedly met a real person in Charlotte, NC in November, for the 2nd scam, so we can only assume that the romance scam people are hiring actors because their business is so lucrative. After that, she Skyped and used an untraceable google phone number, plus texts, to contact the man who is really a criminal organization.
It seems from the texts like the organization allows less skilled people, or even a bot, to generate romantic phrases that keep her dopamine levels up. Also they contact her at all hours so as to deprive her of sleep.
My brother and I had to go to South Carolina where she lived in a remote location and rescue her. She was making a burka on her sewing machine — Mom is Catholic — and the scammer was promising a ticket to Iran. Whether she was being set up for a kidnapping because she was out of money, or if she suggested the trip and he was just playing along but the plane ticket would never really arrive, we will never know. But it is possible she was making her own funeral garment.
My brother and I took guardianship and took her back to a retirement home near me. She is bereft and cries constantly. The love of family has finally made her see that the whole thing was a scam, but she is in the first stages of dementia and goes in and out of lucidity about that fact. She is completely bereft and I am trying to get her to grief counseling, though there are few groups for this odd type of grief. Additionally, my brother and I had weird things happening on our computers, so we had to install VPNs, change all passwords and get the best malware protection out there.
This incident continues to put a tremendous strain on me and my family. The dating services are at fault for blithely allowing known stolen identities — the photos and identity used by the second scammer were reported stolen by the real person to the FBI — and not doing anything to stop it. The victims of this psychological rape and the families are left to pick up the pieces for years aftewards.
How can I explain what happened as anything other than a crime? He says that he was an Military Soldier Paratrooper who works in Camp Blanding, Jacksonville. We chat everyday he also sent me pictures and videos of the place he supposedly worked. One day he told me he was on the list of a few soldiers who are going to be deployed to United Arab Emirates, specifically Abu Dhabi. The next day he told me he was verifying with the cellphones companies and told that the cost to buy a pre paid card was and asked if I can help him, swearing that once his deployment finished he pay me back, I said yes in the name of love, go to Western Union and made the first transaction of many other ahead.
Why me? Thanks for letting me share my story with you. I hope others can read it and says I never fall into a romance scam. All started on Instagram. He send me a kind request on Instagram telling me that my smile has captivate him and he would like to meet me. At first I was not sure of wanting to meet anyone as I was aware of the scams, I replied to him after 2 weeks, one night after a couple of wines, I just replied to him asking him from which country was he from.
I thought, maybe I can find the right person who could steal me and my heart and have finally that love, attention and relationship that I been looking for in my dreams. This gentleman was amazing, he had all I wanted in a man, he said he was working as a private contractor for the oil and gas sector.
That called my attention as I know a bit of that. So he felt after 2 years he should try start dating again and he was looking for his lady to have a serious relationship. I was honest and told him that I was married in a very unhealthy relationship and that I really wanted a divorce. He agreed that I should divorce as I deserved a gentleman and someone who really love me. He always told me not to worry as he support me. I did not know in which way.
We communicated almost for a month using the messenger service of a Instagram. The song that he dedicated to me, We talked about many things, his family, the love for his granddaughter, etc. I understood for our conversations that he was very wealthy with a big house in Carlsbad near the ocean, driving his 2 toy cars a Maserati and Lamborghini.
Our conversations were long, we laugh and seems like we knew each other from another life. I fell for him and he seems also to shared the same feelings. He was a son of god, attended his Sunday commitment and I was happy to know that we shared the same believes. I try to research the pictures that he sent me but no location was given. He was smart at that, no trace of anything.
Then he asked me to use hangouts and I felt a bitter taste in my mouth, the first red flag came to me. I asked him for his phone number in case we had an emergency, how we can reach each other, so he gave me a number, I search the number looking for answers, the area was where he lives, I try to do a reverse search and nothing came out, no name, another flag. We spent hours texting mostly during the day, he said he was looking for a contract in Europe as he has not worked in 2 years since his wife died and his piggybank was getting low, so he had to work in the evening to catch up with the time zone in Europe.
He send me many pictures of him, I found him very handsome, I also asked for pictures of his house, I wanted to know all about him or find real answers. The pictures he sent from his house looked like rooms in a hotel, I did not realized it until later looking at them with detail, so he never really sent me pictures of his home. The living room, at the end of it had 3 coffee makers and 3 toasters, I see them even at far, I asked him why you have so many coffee makers, he ignored me and I knew he was not a coffee drinker.
He never really had interest in talking on the phone until I practically imposed myself so he called me up but his voiced sounded as he was from Texas or Louisiana, kind of singing English and I was wondering I asked him, I though it was a bit of his Sweden accent with English but he told me he grow up in Minnesota.
Finally we did a video call and I was able to proof that his face and voice were him. I was so happy to talk to him, I was crazy about him. His birthday was yesterday the day we broke up! A week ago, I asked him for his address to send him a card, he immediately told me that someone was calling him before he replied to my text, I found that weird, I sense he was thinking what to said or to do or looking for an address to give me.
The address he gave me was a warehouse, I used google earth and it also had an STE, I thought, a mansion with a STE? Beside the sea? I run another search in Search people and the address came out as a factory, another flag, I was confused and started to feel scare of what I was putting myself into and I still wanted to believe in him in my dream, my happinesses.
He told me that he wanted me to move to California after he was done with his job overseas and he will give me the best life ever, traveling the world. After almost two months of looking for a contract without any luck, suddenly, he called me up so excited to tell me that he got a contract with a rich man in Ukraine , he sounded so true so real and that he have to fly to NY in 2 days to sign the contract with a representative, I was really happy for all the good things happening.
I did not heard from him much during the 3 days he was in NY. He told me he was very busy with the representative and his contract, then, he sent me a picture of him and some guy signing the contract. When I saw the picture at first I was happy that he got the job but looking at the picture again, I found that he was looking to a different direction of the camera, I thought this looks weird, so I did an image search and I found out the original picture from a news site from Dubai!
My heart stop! The picture he sent me was a photoshopped of him! I called up the hotel and no one with his name was registered there, wow, I felt horrible, the truth I did not wanted to find was revealed to me.
The next day when he texted me he said he will stay one day more as he need it to be in NY and that the representative of his boss will be flying him in his private jet back to California.
I did not believe a thing but played around. The next day another disappointment came when I woke up. I found a message from him telling me how much he misses me and a picture of him in the luxury private yet seated, I run again another picture search and found again the original picture! He sent me for the second time another picture of him photoshopped, By then I was very disappointed, sad, angry, feeling like a fool, embarrassed of being so naive, so stupid that this time I did it right. My world collapsed, I was down and depressed thinking what to do, either ignore it all or to face him.
I muster my courage to face it and told him he was a complete lier, he actually accused me of photoshopped the pictures to blame him claiming that his pictures were the originals and I had changed them to blame him!
His true colour came out, his anger, his words accusing me of lying. I guess he was in shock as he never expected that I could discovered the truth, the pictures, he was not prepared for that, his interest was to know, how I found those pictures , where I found them.
I told him, the interned is full of information. I decided to sign out of hangouts and removed the account and blocked him every where. maybe he had good intentions and I screwed it all? He did not asked me for money, or he did not had the chance. There were many things that he seemed so true, could be possible he played with me all the time?
Now, I have more struggle in my relationship, I have no desire, energy of nothing, I feel depressed but I promised myself to bounce back. I repeat to myself, he was not real, he never care about me. I was asked for friendship by a guy whose alleged name was Zane Nyser. He looked like a nice, gentle guy, interested in learning other languages. I replied to his email, and we started a close correspondence. He introduced himself saying that he was in the US Army, was a Sergeant Major, aged 50 I am 58 and he was currently deployed in a very isolated and dangerous camp in Afghanistan.
He said he was a widower with a six years old daughter who was being taken care for by a military caregiver. Because of the nature of his assignment, he was only allowed to communicate via Gmail or Hangout, Gmail instant messaging system.
He was not permitted to make any phone calls, or send video messages or taking pics. The only two pictures he posted showed him with his daughter and him alone in his uniform, when he introduced himself.
I swear to God I was not looking for a romance, but things quickly intensified between us. We exchanged emails and texts, many of them. I sent him pics of myself; I wrote him things about my life I had never shared with anybody before.
I was like possessed and under his spell. He was so caring and understanding and made me feel beautiful and desired. He talked of sharing a life that he would have retired from the Army to stay with me. He even sent me an official document to prove that.
Which was a FAKE document, how I realized later. My heart was swelling with love and lust for this man. When I argued that I could not get my passport ready before June, he said he would buy the house in my name and get me the residency in the US. That everything was going to be okay. He said he had only 30 days left at the camp and before heading back to the US he would spend fifteen days with me in Italy.
He asked me to start booking a house on Airbnb where we would stay and make our plans. I even put an alert on my phone for the Afghan latest news, so to be punctually informed of any incident occurring to the US soldiers in that area.
When I read of two US soldiers killed in an ambush on a Friday mid of March, I got crazy with anxiety and concern. I texted and emailed him endlessly for the entire day and night. The morning after, he wrote to me that he and his unit had been called to rescue the dead soldiers in a war zone with no Internet connection. I was so relieved to hear from him and to know he was safe, that I did not question him further as I should have.
One day I asked him if he had told anybody about us. He replied that there was this buddy he confided in but was killed before we met because of a flying bullet. My love for this man and his troubled and unfortunate story grew even more. Again, in hindsight, I should have asked him why among the names of the US soldiers died in Afghanistan there was no one killed at the beginning of March because of a flying bullet.
On a Saturday afternoon, he wrote that he was going to go on a special assignment with other 12 selected soldiers to take down an ISIS hide. He told me not to worry, but be prepared to the worst, that I had to find his daughter and take care of her, he loved me so much, and blah, blah, blah.
On Sunday night I got a message that he was back, mission accomplished. During his assignment, however, he had been shot in his ankle and shoulder, but he was safe back to the camp. Then he added something that appeared unreal to me and prompted me to ask myself some questions. While we were searching through their camp we discovered some ammunition and some hostages. We saved a sheikh A Royal member who eventually gave us some huge amount of money to appreciate our efforts as he has been in hostage for sometime now.
He told us to share the money among ourselves as a compensation for all the dangers we suffered in the operation. The operation was the most dangerous military operation i have ever experienced in my entire life. I have packed mine inside a brown-box that was used by the medical crew who came to treat wounded soldiers here and my personal documents, my Id card and my diary which i would love you to read and somethings about me, I also have very classified Documents that will help aid my Retirement approval.
I have asked the lead doctor Raymond to help me deposit it to a Delivery Agency out side of Afghanistan. He promised to deposit with a Delivery company, who have the license to deliver safely. They have already left the base, he has made the deposit and send all the details to me. This is the very good opportunity for me to retire and say good bye to this death roll kind of Job. This is what I want you to do, I want you to contact the delivery company and let them deliver the box containing the documents and my share of the money.
Then he added that I was to send an email to a shipping company in London and confirm that I would accept the box, paying them for the cost to organize a specially dedicated transport from London to my home. I did what I was asked to, but as soon as I received the immediate reply from this company it was midnight, Italian time , I started to sense that something was really off.
This Company was supposed to be located in London, but their English was terrible. I immediately wrote him back wording my doubts about this company, but he reassured me that three other Officers who were granted the same money had used it already and everything was fine.
I asked him why he could not pay this company with his Credit Card, and he replied that his credit card was in that box how convenient of him. The day after — Monday — he was very persistent in asking me if I had done what requested.
I told him that I had some difficulties in withdrawing money with my Credit Card without going clear with my husband since we had a joint account. So, I proposed an alternative plan, which involved my brother who lives in the U.
After a moment he replied that he did not feel comfortable to rely on a third party. That the contents of the box were fundamental to him and his life depended on it. And that I had to find a way to send the money to this company. Blimey, I could check each red flag signs they named. I started questioning him about his real identity, sending him links of the romance scams, including an official statement from the US Army that warned people, mostly women, not to send money to somebody known online.
I recently was a romance scammer victim. I am not an english native spoken, but i did my best and i want to share my story. A game request was sent to me by a player called Marvin R. He started to talk about himself that he was from Norway, about 46 years old, with one 15 years old daughter and he was a project manager, living on North Carolina but working on oil rig in Scotland 6 months ago.
He started to be a little more romantic, using words like babe, baby or honey, and i started to feel something about him maybe i was needed of attention and in the past i had very toxic relationships. My heart stopped because i was imagining on my mind this norwegian guy was in love of me and i felt the same.
Everything was going very well, he had called me for the first time, because he wanted to hear my voice, his accent was a little weird but i thought in that time i was about he was norwegian. After that he told me he was very depressed about a problem in the oil rig he was working on. There was an accident, and he was in charge of security of very expensive machinary and all the lost in that accidente was up on him. After that, he wrote: Do you think i was joking with this??
He asked. I said to myself: what?? I passed through for an extenuant journey to get that amount of dollars in the city i live and in this pandemic time. I sent wire money to a person called Cheryl Brinkley, address in north carolina. He said was a coworker of his company.
It passed about days until he got the money i sent, when i asked him about the money, he just told me: you know there are bank restrictions but i let you know when i get it. I was tracking the money and it was withdrew. I was terryfied and calm at the same time, because i was thinking i made something to help him, but i was wrong. Another week passed, and he summitted me a email with an attached file of a pre contract with a huge amount of money he will paid for his services to an oil shore company called Bristoil Offshore Services Ltd in Glasgow, Scotland, United Kingdom.
I accepted to be his companion. But he said he will let know when payment was ready. I sent to him videos talking to him, singing to him, i wrote love letters, dedicating songs, i showed him what i wanted to cook for him, even intimacy by phone call, and i feek ashamed of myself for that etc.
But he never asked me for videocalls, i asked him to plan a date for meeting each other, coming to my hometown, asked him to show me the places in Scotland he was visiting in his free time and he avoid every time i asked for this another red flag and in this moment, i was starting to suspecting about him, i loved him too much but He was still a mystery for me in almost two month relationship.
Finally, 4 days ago i wrote this letter, he told me payment was ready and the company asked him to get my bank account information to deposit the payment. I looked for this russian man IG account and i saw all the pictures this guy sent to me pretending to be another person. I have contacted to this russian man for warning him about scammers using their pictures for deceiving woman like me.
Fortunately, he replied me and gave me adviced to verify information about someone i recently meet, and he will notice to online dating websites. To end this horror story, i faced him, i showed him the fake profiles and the real account i was stealing pictures to lie to me.
I told him i notified to the russian guy and if he tried to damage me more his bussiness will be ruined. He was shocked about i accused him with this russian guy, he wanted to know how i could talked to him. I blocked him in every possible media to avoid him. I still feel scared about he can find me o try to blackmail me or use my pics or data for scamming someome else.
I pray God protect me from these evil people. I have lost, but i believe i lost less than i would have lost if continue this fake romance. I know God will give us justice for all this suffer. And i know i will be able to love again, in a healthy way. Thank you for creating forum. Being a victim of a scam is a lonely and desperate place. This experience cost me almost everything, including my life, and it is very-very hard to find closure or healing.
Maybe sharing my story would help. It all started with a simple Thank you message from someone who seemed Florian, an recently discovered actor.
Instantly, I did think it was a scam yet I replied. My initial reaction was to uncover this fraudster, report it to his management and help others. Within a few weeks he was telling me how he was in trouble with his management and his bank account was locked as a result. That never happened and I suppose that made me feel even sadder. I knew people with similar stories who got a response and a resolution from his management company.
One girl even received a video where Florian himself thanked her for reporting and helping to stop his name being misused. I was sad and I wanted to let my scammer know that I know he wasnt Florian and that I blocked him. My heart sunk and I thought my god maybe it is really him and how could I be so disloyal.
I was not asked to pay, I just knew about the problems and I was offering the money simply out of love. Naively I hoped I do this, his troubles will easy and we can meet. Right from the start I had this desire to face him so my doubts will ease. Little did I know that was the beginning of a year long journey where more money was needed. Within 3 months I had 3 credits cards maxed out, 2 overdrafts and a loan with digits.
And strangely the money I parted with wasnt so hard. I simply loved this person, I loved every message he sent. I was replying instantly, nothing mattered. He became my life. It was almost painful to carry all of this love inside me and not being to able give it to him in person. I simply loved this human being through and through.
The loving words, his beautiful soul, his gentleness, even his anger when I started to feel difficult. And I was difficult. And ultimately, that was what drove me to a place where I had nothing but painful thoughts of ending my life. I fought against it hard, and I fought with him not to do this to me. Nearly a year passed this way, and I was beginning to feel very unwell, mentally exhausted, suffering from anxiety that was lasting days now. I faced the consequences of my debt too.
I was hardly able to make payments, pay for my bills, at times even have the money to by food. And I was ashamed, I was ashamed to tell him that. I still sent even the last of my money, I still went and got the steam card, with every purchase crying in my car, absolutely helpless.
I hid it all from everyone, and I think that was the most painful thing I had to face. To lie to my family, the family I loved very deeply. I stopped helping them so I can help my love. And all I wanted in return is pace of mind, not having to find out from Instagram where he was, what he was doing. I simply felt so much hurt by the fact that I have sacrificed everything and in return I can not be trusted enough like a proper couple. I was pleading constantly with him not to do it, as each post became a almost trauma to my already fragile and vulnerable mental state.
Yet, I still tried to show my loyalty and despite these posts, I still wanted to trust and I still loved him very much. And I felt guilty for being this way, not accepting him for who he is. It was almost as Florian did not even matter, if it was him or not, I simply loved. But my depression made me face so many negativity despite the love I became nasty and said things I felt were suffocating me.
Only because I was hoping for a little gesture of him to do something for me. I was begging him to be worth at least a phone call. With one single call my doubts wouldve disappeared and none of the bad things needed to happen. And it never came. I had to make a choice of walking away and save me. And i survived. I rebuilt, i work 3 jobs to pay my debt and it is the single proud moment i am able to feel. I protected my love, i fought for my love, i nearly died for this love.
Now i want to work on a new year, a new, better me. I want to be the person who can love and respect the person i love. After all I am worth a good, happy life.
And I am worth a love that would love me just as much as I love. BACK TO TOP. Most of this people claiming to be military personels on dating sites are scammers.
You find them on every dating sites , also on instagram. I advice you to always insist to see your alleged lover before any financial commitment. There is another Nigerian who is scamming using dating sites in China and Malaysia. I was friend by a guy called Ricky Ng. Claimed to be aviation engineer from Us gorgia. I run through google image apparently he also use insta account under different name John Wong. While i was friends with them, i actually secretly seatch what they did on fb, he apparently appear to inderstand Indonesian.
So i suspect this was another scammer gag from asia. I able to talk to him on messenger and his english is not fluent like american born chonese he claimed to be. The site they use on insta name john wong, i was able to mag him on whatsup, and the msg on whatsup seems to be answered by different person.
Like a gang of people doing different type of task. One catching in front insta , other replying msg. Many tome i caught they didnt understand what i am trying to say. Perhaps they were not from english speaking background. I confronted them that they sound different each tome perhaps they different person.
They blocked me immiditely. Is that this a paid theme or did you modify it your self? God cares for scammed women. But an experience like this that left you feeling totally vulnerable and bruised is a good place from which to start again with Your Maker. I am a recovered survivor so I know. Forgive your scam love and yourself too, see the bigger picture, both of you are on different assignments. The scam experience is not final.
Take it as a chance to let God bring His best in You. Stop blaming yourself. You have a deeper need that the scammer easily connected with. Let God embrace you with His unconditional love. I read all posted stories and comments and thank God and Jan on this site! Met my scammer on LinkedIn in February, construction engineer from USA, now in Russia, personal contract. Texting on WhatsApp. Of course, extra payments needed, first for insurance, after that for custom seizure..
Courier service is fake. Lack of funds, breaching contract, undelivered package…excuses for money extortion and not coming to meet. Guess, keeping me in the game just in case… I shared informations on ScamWarners.
com hoping it will help potential victims with red flags when make checkings on the web. Did you receive messages from people from rich countries asking them to send them some cashless ones?
And so blindly I fell in love with him over a while and I never knew he was a scammer. com and ipostservice deliveryman. I was destroyed by this bastard, now I am bankrupt. I kept paying and never got the damn package. Scammers are everywhere, so we really need to be careful especially in dating sites. Tinder, Asian dating. I found out also that she even made love with a foreign guy twice as her age just because of the money.
So we better have to be careful especially those person we encountered online. My heart goes out to you all who have been so hurt by this activity. I thought I was totally scam proof having been a criminal public prosecutor for 25 years. the sophistication of the scam nearly caught me out. He never directly asked me for cash but a clear shot to get me to money launder. I said no- twice! I am very cynical now and start from the premise they are all scammers until proven otherwise!
I have a story to tell. It is similar to the ones I had read in my this with the exception that I am still in contact with the scammer. I know it fills an empty place inside to be talking regularly with someone. What must be kept in mind is that their motivation is not to similarly fill that empty hole, but it is solely a business strategy to build a relationship so they can get you to part with your money. so be very careful..
He was full of loving caring comments never in my wildest dreams did I think it could happen to me Well it did I am hurt ,angry and very disappointed in myself. This is really sad.
Scammers are everywhere especially in dating sites. So i think before getting involved with any body online, we really need to do some background check and loyalty test so that we really know who we are dealing with.
We really have to be careful especially nowadays that the internet is booming and online dating is a trend. You can go into your local police station to file a report. Take any documents you have as evidence. If you are Australian, also report it to ACORN, search on the web , or just do a web search for how to report scams to find how to report scams in your country. Unfortunately, police may not seem to do much…. I am currently reading your book, Jan.
I am not yet ready to tell my story, but I will eventually to help the healing. Your words are chillingly like my experience, even down to his use of some of the same expressions. Your book has profoundly impacted me. I thank you for your display of courage and resilience. Five months of therapy has not given me near what you have given me.
Thanks Connie, it is gratifying that the book is proving useful to you in moving through the next stage of your recovery process. Take care and be gentle with yourself. Wow, my heart goes out to all of you, I pray that God heal your broken hearts, and that he protect you in the future from such sickly uncaring soul. I just got myself in a similar situation only praise to God there was no money involved.
But one day the man named Danny Marco sent me an invitation through my Fitbit and so I though it was someone who was interested in running or working out. After a few days he send me a message to go to the hangout app, because there we could talk better so I did. The first time in that app he talked about his job that he was an independent worker for Marathon Oil Company in the Gulf of Mexico.
The first texts was about how he was so in love with me by just seeing my profile picture, and that he wanted to find a wife and I was it. I was aware of all that he was saying was not real, but here is the thing the are smooth with their words. The beautiful poetry that just melts your hear. The romance that only in the movies can be found, then you being lonely and vulnerable is where the get you. He was melting my heart with such beautiful word.
Please if you have a friend or a love one telling you to be careful and that they believe its a scam PLEASE listen to them, they are not in the middle of the web and the can think better than us. I blocked him from everything including my fitbit and deleted my hang out app.. May God bless you all and keep you safe. I am so happy to find this site to see that others have been subjected to a romance scam just like me. I think it will be good therapy for me to tell my story and get it out there.
Live in Houston, Tx. I do not do Facebook and have never been on a dating site either. But I am a professional, so am on LinkedIn. Out of the blue, one day, a nice man contacted me, via email, stating that he had run across my profile while searching for someone else, thought I had an interesting profile, and politely asked if we might get to know each other via friendly correspondence. My profile does list my email address, so that was not a flag for me.
I was having a really stressful day at work, so this was a bit of a sidetrack from the stress, so I thought what the heck, and replied. So began a world win on-line romance. The pictures he sent were of the most handsome Italian man I have ever seen in pictures.
From email exchanges, we seemed to have enough common interests that sparked my interest. He was charming, intriguing, and romantic. He sent me many romantic music videos. We talked on the phone as well as emails and texts. His next love interest seemed to be a perfect match. She was a compassionate, personal support worker, and assisted those with physical limitations.
The new online couple talked for six months and then met in person. Over four years, they met up in person about six different times. Although this woman was real, she seemed to be in it for the money, more than Walter realized. When she claimed that she needed medical procedures, he began sending her tens of thousands of dollars. She promised to pay him back but, like all scammers , never did. The woman disappeared and stopped returning his calls.
He was left with the fear of losing his home and crying himself to sleep, hoping for a miracle. Meet Joy — An attractive, middle-aged brunette who never thought a con would happen to her. Joy only wants to be known by her first name, as she is still uncomfortable knowing that she was the victim of a scam.
She signed up for Match. com when she became single after separating from her husband. He said that he was an international businessman, and they started to email and text. She received love letters that warmed her heart. Joy knew it was a large sum and had planned on using that money to buy herself a new home, post-divorce. However, she loved this man and believed that he loved her and would pay her back.
She wired the funds and was, near instantly, ignored by the man she thought was a kind-hearted gentleman named Michael. She was in such bad financial straits that she had to move in with an out of state relative. Joy now knows that she gave up the money she had because she wanted to love and to be and feel special, unfortunately, It cost her more than a broken heart.
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I have added this page because it is important to speak out and be heard about what has happened to you. This page is not for photographs they are stolen or details, and is not meant to be a database of scams or scammers, but more the personal expression of what has happened and the impact of that. Expressing this, if only this once, is an important step towards healing…. If you would like to add your story here, please email it to me and let me know you would like it published.
For readers, remember, these are not my views, but the views of the victims, in their words. It took courage to share them here. Story 1 Story 2 Story 3 Story 4 Story 5 Story 6 Story 7 Story 8 Story 9 Story 10 Story 11 Story 12 Story 13 Story 14 Story Story 1 — AW I fell hard for a man who called himself James Mares after weeks of Messaging back and forth.
Little did I know that this man would become as dear to me as anyone I had ever known, in as little as a month. Saying he was self-employed Engineer in China, he was preparing to come back to the States…and an hour or less from where I live. He needed help to finish paying his ticket to the States.
The ticket was official looking. How could I doubt his reality? His expressions of tenderness and care melted my heart…along with the most loving of poetry…and before I knew it I was as much in love with him as he was with me. There were red flags throughout, which I pushed aside, wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt.
My friends and daughter told me this was a scam. I allowed my heart, rather than my mind, decided to borrow the money for this. Next thing, he was in an accident on the way to the airport, which killed the taxi driver, and left him in a horrible condition, requiring surgery. This does not occur. And then, he let me know he had to go to the business office…obviously to discuss what he owed.
I finally woke up to the fact that I was being scammed for money. I was plenty abrupt about it. I have much going on this time in my life, but nothing as EVIL as these CRIMINALS. So, this is my attempt to share my experience…and hopefully find RESOLVE.
It has been over 2 years since my scam heartbreak. It all started when my husband of 25 years dumped me for a 20 year old Asian girl. I was devastated and had to go through all the pain of selling our home, going to solicitors to unravel super and investments, move to another state and find a new home I could afford.
My whole world was turned upside down. I was lonely so I decided to go onto a dating site, which I had little experience. I was contacted by a handsome 65 year old man calling himself Jeff Thomas. He said he was an engineer and lived in Sydney but was willing to relocate as he was about to retire. We chatted through the site then he wanted me to talk through emails and phone. Of course I was keen to meet him face to face.
One day he said he had to return to Malaysia to complete a railway bridge he was building for the Malaysian government. I suggested I could fly up to Sydney to meet him before he left, he agreed and we made arrangements. and emails. It was relentless morning, lunch afternoon and late at night, I wondered how he could find this time as he was suppose to be building a railway bridge. He sent me photos of the bridge , I was convinced this was real even though there were many red flags!!!
By this time he was talking about us buying a big house, travel the world together etc etc, even marrying when he returned in a couple of months. Well I sent him that money, there was a complicated story about that.
Then he asked me to sell my cottage that I owned so he could pay his workers all the money he owed them as they had gone on strike. I told him that was impossible, I started to become worried. Then one day I received a phone call from his so called solicitor in Sydney. I talked to my daughter and she talked to the AFP who said this guy was known to them and it was a scam.
I reported it to the police, blocked him and cried my heart out for days. It was wonderful being able to talk to someone like Jan and her support group. I am still healing with good and bad days and my financial security is wrecked but I am still here and healthy.
I am 26 years old, this old is so beautiful. But I am feeling terrible and unfair for my life right now. In 10 May , a man sent friend request to me on FaceBook social networking. He wants to take care me, he wants bring his heart to me with his fully love. We chatted on Viber social networking. Because he wants to close relationships with me. He wants love from me. I believed this words from his mouth. I lost 50,AUD from this joke of scammer. I tried to ask help from my friends to help the scammer because I believed that he told a trust his story of his life.
He said he comes from USA. And he lives with his son who is 9 years old. He is an engineer, And he will go to Turkey for his jobs. I said that I even have not money to buy food for myself. And he said that he would like to send his credit card to me because I can help him to withdraw money from AUSTRALIA and I have to send his money back to TURKEY through MoneyGram. I have to help him because his son is in Hospital for treatment his injuries. His son has been broken leg when his son played with another children.
I thought of his son, and I said that okey I help him. After this, I received an email from a Fake company which is called FairWay Express. And the parcel will be sent to me by my address details. But something is happened. Another email from this company said that I have to pay the fee for some Certificate such as : — Import and Export Duty Permit Certificate — Diplomatic Yellow Tag — Anti Terrorist Certificate — United Nations Clearance Bond, and total fee is 15, Euros.
I felt this company is fake and I started to doubt this company but I make a mistake when I told to the scammer that this company is a fake company and he said: no…I have to pay this fee immediately because the police will open the parcel and I will get more issues. It makes me feel seriously issues so I tried to get money from some my friends. When I sent this amount through Commonwealth Bank, after 2 days late I got more an email from this company, they requested me to sent more money because they need to certify all this documents and I need a lawyer to do this and of course I have to pay the fee for lawyer.
It is total 11, Euros. And he promised to pay back this amount after I get his parcel. I felt that his son is like my young brother and I tried to get money from my friends again to get the parcel with no doubt that it is scam or fraud.
And it is all plan that the scammer created it. And who will help me to catch this scammer because I want to justice. I reported to ACORN but I received an Automatic reply from them. I am really feel depressed and I am just thinking about the death. I am feeling that this world is not good and the heave of God will better than. Thanks so much. Love trap, smat crap… What magic transpires from the controlling of the puppet-meister… When a smooth talking stranger convinces you to part with everything you have… What sucked me in?
What pulled me tight? What trapped my mind, believing that this was right… An escape, my way out…how delicious it tasted, How susceptible was my spirit to the conundrum awaiting… How do I explain the toxic effect of this relationship?
The lure, how tempting, I was easy prey. Far beyond my reality, and dangerously so, compelled to meet expectations, I subjugated fully to threats as meted so. How I fell victim to the pressures of his commands, only to please him, my master, they would be set, and off and onward bound. In my intoxicated state, drunk on the love notes, the promise of escape, I would function like a wind-up doll and operate. The chemical reactions stirring within, had altered my ego, and my id.
I was acting way beyond my character, and in my altered state, a stage to perform this drama did begin. How I reveled in this fantasy…I was engaging in an operation, involved with my lover of sorts, partners in crime, what thrill it gave me this interplay.
The drive to meet expectations, of dire circumstance no less, that was the achievement, and how I wanted to prove it…that I was capable, a worthy candidate.
I was on a mission, and how fascinating it all seemed, to be part of this quest, ah the intrigue… The demands were all made via the messenger early, at sunrise, amounts already determined. And like the wind-up doll expressed, on switched the buttons, the functions of the day computed and set. With little sleep from the night before, my mind was entangled in the rapture of the dulcet tones of love, of sweet nothingness only to lighten the blow.
I would awaken next morning to the alarm on my phone reminding me the daylight had come, was I ready to go? Appearing alert, but physically and mentally paying the brunt of this curse, I would set off as usual with my mission firm. Zombie-like in my mental state, on auto-pilot and charged for the day, the next drop, no room for delay. My head brainwashed into believing this was what was expected of me, my duty of great responsibility.
· DISABLED MAN LOST $k IN ONLINE ROMANCE SCAM. Walter Zutell. He and Joy have never met but share something in common. They both lost around $k to a (AARP has joined this revolution, partnering with the online dating service HowAboutWe to launch AARP Dating in December ) But the online-dating boom has also fueled an invisible epidemic. According to the Federal Trade Real scam victims have shared their experiences to help warn others about scams. In these stories we ask you to find the signs that it was a scam, and consider how similar scams · Top 5 Romance Scam Stories #1: The Tinder Swindler. He used his Private Jet to Romance Scam? Celine wasn’t one to be easily fooled. Simon looked #2: John Meehan. Online dating scams happen all over the world, but certain demographics tend to be more susceptible. Romance scams have a 45% susceptibility risk to their targets. (BBB Scam ... read more
I encourage you to break contact with this person, as he will eventually ask you for money again. February 4, Is that this a paid theme or did you modify it your self? Phil show, in which the TV therapist confronted two women who claimed to be engaged to men they'd met online. Select a State Alabama Alaska Arizona Arkansas California Colorado Connecticut District Of Columbia Delaware Florida Georgia Hawaii Idaho Illinois Indiana Iowa Kansas Kentucky Louisiana Maine Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Montana Nebraska Nevada New Hampshire New Jersey New Mexico New York North Carolina North Dakota Ohio Oklahoma Oregon Pennsylvania Rhode Island South Carolina South Dakota Tennessee Texas Utah Vermont Virgin Islands Virginia Washington West Virginia Wisconsin Wyoming Select a City Search Now. How to get free Wi-Fi: The digital nomad's guide to cybersecurity.I recently was a romance scammer victim. General Inquiries: online dating scam stories socialcatfish. for fun or seriously It is interesting, if I shall find the love in your country, online dating scam stories, I should go in your country? Every second of every minute of every hour of every day, I wonder how was it possible? He said he was a widower with a six years old daughter who was being taken care for by a military caregiver. With the best wishes Aleksandra.